Sunday, March 21, 2010

On My Birthday

Oh tidak...hari ini tiba jua....arghhhh.......
(hehe..ade ke org tak suka sambut birthday ek??)
Tapi paling best kalo every year time kite besday semua org cuti kan??
(kene tunggu jdk Agong....ahaks...)

Pepagi lagi my beloved wife dah prepare nasik lemak spesel
(Spesel pasal dimasak pada 21 March, otey*!!!)
* meminjam istilah anak sedara Pojan..dah tak pelat kot, dah jdk kak Long?!!
Teh tarik beb...Kalah mamak punye, tak caya tanya Deq An!!!

Bab hadiah ni yg terharu ni..
Nak sebut pun tak pandai sampai skrg ni...
Braun Buffel...lebih kurang camtu le...
Dah pesan Ummi takmo hadiah mahal2...
Alhamdulillah...org bagi wajib la amik kan..
Thanks my dear....


Giler ah...dah beso2 pun dpt kek lagi...
Again, thanks my love
(korang layan je la kalo ade statement2 yg rase cam nak muntah ke..loya ke...)

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OK, part ni agak kontroversi skt..
Wife aku pesan byk kali, kene mintak maaf kat kawan2 mahupun sedara mara yg membaca blog ini...
Serius...plan asal adalah meraikan Shifa yg pulang bercuti dari UK..
Kawan2 seper'chatting'an request buat gathering nak jumpa Shifa, Zariman &
their newly UK-born baby, Sarah Humayrah...
Maka aku pun dgn tak tahu malunye offer la umah aku yg solok ni
jdk venue rasmi kejohanan...

Tup2, Shifa tak dpt hadir..
Biasa la, baru blk oversea, sedara mara ramai lagi lom jumpe...

Almaklumlah...antara rakan & ahli keluarga, kene dahulukan yg lebih aula...
Omputih cakap prioritize...
(Yg ni kadang2 aku pun failed...
dulu time raya masa bujang selalu mak aku bising,
beraya umah org tak jumpe jalan balik umah sendiri!!!)

So, aku ubah le gathering tadi tu jdk acara potong kek...
hehe..
Jadi, harap2 korang jgn tersalah anggap la ye..ini bukannye housewarming umah kitorang...





Sekadar menyampaikan hajat...
Housewarming???
Susah nak jawab tu...lom ade budget...hehehe...
Prioritize..remember???

Thursday, March 18, 2010

Baik & Buruk

Kebaikan itu adalah sesuatu yg kamu suka bilamana orang lain tahu tentang perkara itu..

Manakala keburukan itu adalah sesuatu yg kamu benci jika orang lain tahu tentangnya...













Kadang2 kite luangkan masa yg cukup banyak utk perkara2 yg tak sepatutnya..
kite ada masa utk bersukan, menonton TV, surfing internet etc...
hingga kite tiada masa utk mendengar sesuatu yg bole mendidik jiwa....
Astagfirullah....

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

Deadly Sins of Negative Thinking

Deadly Sins of Negative Thinking

1. I will be happy once I have _____ (or once I earn X).

Problem: If you think you can't be happy until you reach a certain point, or until you reach a certain income, or have a certain type of house or car or computer setup, you'll never be happy. That elusive goal is always just out of reach. Once we reach those goals, we are not satisfied — we want more.

Solution: Learn to be happy with what you have, where you are, and who you are, right at this moment. Happiness doesn't have to be some state that we want to get to eventually — it can be found right now. Learn to count your blessings, and see the positive in your situation. This might sound simplistic, but it works.

2. I wish I were as ____ as (a celebrity, friend, co-worker).

Problem: We'll never be as pretty, as talented, as rich, as sculpted, as cool, as everyone else. There will always be someone better, if you look hard enough. Therefore, if we compare ourselves to others like this, we will always pale, and will always fail, and will always feel bad about ourselves. This is no way to be happy.

Solution: Stop comparing yourself to others, and look instead at yourself — what are your strengths, your accomplishments, your successes, however small? What do you love about yourself? Learn to love who you are, right now, not who you want to become. There is good in each of us, love in each of us, and a wonderful human spirit in every one of us.

3. Seeing others becoming successful makes me jealous and resentful.

Problem: First, this assumes that only a small number of people can be successful. In truth, many, many people can be successful — in different ways.

Solution: Learn to admire the success of others, and learn from it, and be happy for them, by empathizing with them and understanding what it must be like to be them. And then turn away from them, and look at yourself — you can be successful too, in whatever you choose to do. And even more, you already are successful. Look not at those above you in the social ladder, but those below you — there are always millions of people worse off than you, people who couldn't even read this article or afford a computer. In that light, you are a huge success.

4. I am a miserable failure — I can't seem to do anything right.

Problem: Everyone is a failure, if you look at it in certain ways. Everyone has failed, many times, at different things. I have certainly failed so many times I cannot count them — and I continue to fail, daily. However, looking at your failures as failures only makes you feel bad about yourself. By thinking in this way, we will have a negative self-image and never move on from here.

Solution: See your successes and ignore your failures. Look back on your life, in the last month, or year, or 5 years. And try to remember your successes. If you have trouble with this, start documenting them — keep a success journal, either in a notebook or online. Document your success each day, or each week. When you look back at what you've accomplished, over a year, you will be amazed. It's an incredibly positive feeling.

5. I'm going to beat so-and-so no matter what — I'm better than him. And there's no way I'll help him succeed — he might beat me.

Problem: Competitiveness assumes that there is a small amount of gold to be had, and I need to get it before he does. It makes us into greedy, back-stabbing, hurtful people. We try to claw our way over people to get to success, because of our competitive feelings. For example, if a blogger wants to have more subscribers than another blogger, he may never link to or mention that other blogger. However, who is to say that my subscribers can't also be yours? People can read and subscribe to more than one blog.

Solution: Learn to see success as something that can be shared, and learn that if we help each other out, we can each have a better chance to be successful. Two people working towards a common goal are better than two people trying to beat each other up to get to that goal. There is more than enough success to go around. Learn to think in terms of abundance rather than scarcity.

6. Dammit! Why do these bad things always happen to me?

Problem: Bad things happen to everybody. If we dwell on them, they will frustrate us and bring us down.

Solution: See bad things as a part of the ebb and flow of life. Suffering is a part of the human condition — but it passes. All pain goes away, eventually. Meanwhile, don't let it hold you back. Don't dwell on bad things, but look forward towards something good in your future. And learn to take the bad things in stride, and learn from them. Bad things are actually opportunities to grow and learn and get stronger, in disguise.

7. You can't do anything right! Why can't you be like ____ ?

Problem: This can be said to your child or your subordinate or your sibling. The problem? Comparing two people, first of all, is always a fallacy. People are different, with different ways of doing things, different strengths and weaknesses, different human characteristics. If we were all the same, we'd be robots. Second, saying negative things like this to another person never helps the situation. It might make you feel better, and more powerful, but in truth, it hurts your relationship, it will actually make you feel negative, and it will certainly make the other person feel negative and more likely to continue negative behavior. Everyone loses.

Solution: Take the mistakes or bad behavior of others as an opportunity to teach. Show them how to do something. Second, praise them for their positive behavior, and encourage their success. Last, and most important, love them for who they are, and celebrate their differences.

8. Your work sucks. It's super lame. You are a moron and I hope you never reproduce.

Problem: I've actually gotten this comment before. It feels wonderful. However, let's look at it not from the perspective of the person receiving this kind of comment but from the perspective of the person giving it. How does saying something negative like this help you? I guess it might feel good to vent if you feel like your time has been wasted. But really, how much of your time has been wasted? A few minutes? And whose fault is that? The bloggers or yours? In truth, making negative comments just keeps you in a negative mindset. It's also not a good way to make friends.

Solution: Learn to offer constructive solutions, first of all. Instead of telling someone their blog sucks, or that a post is lame, offer some specific suggestions for improvement. Help them get better. If you are going to take the time to make a comment, make it worth your time. Second, learn to interact with people in a more positive way — it makes others feel good and it makes you feel better about yourself. And you can make some great friends this way. That's a good thing.

9. Insulting People Back

Problem: If someone insults you or angers you in some way, insulting them back and continuing your anger only transfers their problem to you. This person was probably having a bad day (or a bad year) and took it out on you for some reason. If you reciprocate, you are now having a bad day too. His problem has become yours. Not only that, but the cycle of insults can get worse and worse until it results in violence or other negative consequences — for both of you.

Solution: Let the insults or negative comments of others slide off you like Teflon. Don't let their problem become yours. In fact, try to understand their problem more — why would someone say something like that? What problems are they going through? Having a little empathy for someone not only makes you understand that their comment is not about you, but it can make you feel and act in a positive manner towards them — and make you feel better about yourself in the process.

10. I don't think I can do this — I don't have enough discipline. Maybe some other time.

Problem: If you don't think you can do something, you probably won't. Especially for the big stuff. Discipline has nothing to do with it — motivation and focus has everything to do with it. And if you put stuff off for "some other time", you'll never get it done. Negative thinking like this inhibits us from accomplishing anything.

Solution: Turn your thinking around: you can do this! You don't need discipline. Find ways to make yourself a success at your goal. If you fail, learn from your mistakes, and try again. Instead of putting a goal off for later, start now. And focus on one goal at a time, putting all of your energy into it, and getting as much help from others as you can. You can really move mountains if you start with positive thinking.

Ape2 Aje..

Salam....
It has been 2 weeks since I last updated my weblog...

Selalu gak orang guna istilah dah bersawang...
Punye la 'lampi', baru aku perasan, ianye ade kene mengena dgn literal meaning of laman sesawang (website)
mahupun log sesawang..err..log dlm bahasa melayu ape??answer me..quick & now!!!!

Whatever...

Bile menulis blog....sama ada penulis akan bercerita tentang die, tentang org lain..mahupun berkenaan benda2 lain....

Aku kira, bile menulis tentang diri sendiri...maka perasaan riak, takabbur, megah diri, menunjuk serta sifat2 mazmumah yg lainnye pasti timbul..
Tapi jgn la fikirkan yg negatif..We are what we think, right??

Malahan, bile kite berkongsi sesuatu tentang kite, mungkin ade sesuatu yg dpt diambil iktibar oleh orang lain..

Bile menulis tentang orang lain pula, pasninye unsur2 mengumpat, keji mengeji, mudah utk dizahirkan....
Bacalah blog2 org2 politik & penyokong2 fanatik...tentu takkan jumpe sesuatu yg baik tentang org lain...semuanya salah kalo psl musuh & perfect belaka jika penyokong seseorang individu itu....

Tapi kite juga ada pilihan utk menulis kebaikan2 orang lain, dgn harapan dpt jadik panduan utk orang ramai...
Life is all about making choice...Good or bad...That's it...

Maka, bagus juga bile kite bercerita tentang benda2 lain, yg tak termasuk dlm 2 kategori2 yg di atas...

Tentu korang terfikir ape benda la yg aku melalut ni....

Just a little thought..
Kerana aku pernah diajukan soalan2 berkenaan..

Ape2 aje....hehehe

Saturday, February 27, 2010

Masya-Allah

Seorang colleague aku berbangsa India mengadu anaknye 'kena mata'..
sekarang demam2, hilang selera makan..

Lantas aku yg terpinga2 tanya balik kat dia...apebenda tu?

Aku tak sure apa istilah paling tepat..
Yang aku penah dengar, 'panahan mata'...
Lebih kurang sama la kot..
Lagipun, anaknye seorang yg sangat chubby..
Membuatkan setiap org yg berjumpe akan mencubit pipinya...

Tapi aku agak pelik gak, tak sangka non-Muslim pun ade kepercayaan yg cam gitu..

Aku tak pasti sama ada isu ni penah disebut dlm hadith Rasulullah ataupun tidak.
Yang aku pasti, penah jugak aku dengar beberapa ustaz yg mengulas topik ni.
Terbaru, oleh Ustaz Wan Sohor Bani Leman. Tentang seorang bayi di supermarket yg dikerumuni lantaran muka ala2 Pan-Asian.
Dgn kudrat Ilahi, bayi itu menemui ajalnya tidak lama dari situ akibat tercekik gula2..
Itulah contoh panahan mata, kata Ustaz.
Sebelum ni pun ade sorang ustaz, namanya Rashid dari Filipina (mengajar di Matric UIA PJ,terkenal kerana soalan2 cepu emasnye..mengajar subject Akhlak), pun mention benda yg hampir serupa.
Tapi tak pulak die jelaskan consequences daripada panahan mata ni. Sekadar menghilangkan perasaan dengki, pesan beliau.

Masya-Allah, comelnye budak ini..
Sekadar gambar hiasan. Tiada kene mengena dgn kisah di atas..hehehe



Dipendekkan cerita, setiap kali kita melihat sesuatu yg indah, cantik, baik, bagus, marvellous & seumpama dengannya,
maka mulakanlah dengan berkata.. "Masya-Allah"..
Tak kira sama ada kite berjumpa dgn org yg kita kenal mahupun tidak.
Bile melihat die berkereta baru, berkerjaya hebat, berharta menimbun, berumah besar, mempunyai anak2 yg comel, berketrampilan cantik hatta beristeri cun ataupun bersuami hensem...maka ucapkanlah
"Masya-Allah...cantik kereta ko ni"..sebagai contohnya..
Mulakan setiap ucapan itu dgn Masya-Allah, barulah diikuti dgn pujian menggunung & setinggi langit...

Segala pujian seharusnya disandarkan kepada Allah. Lagipun, tak semua pujian itu ikhlas dari hati.
Kadang2 sekadar penyedap mulut. Maka, dgn bersandarkan kepada Allah, kite menyetujui bahawa kepunyaan Allah lah segala nikmat2 tersebut.
Malah, pengucapan Masya-Allah juga dapat mengelakkan hati kite dari perasaan cemburu, sakit hati, dengki, mahupun iri hati dgn nikmat yg org lain ada...

Kita takut2 nikmat org yg kite puji itu, akibat panahan mata, akan mengakibatkan kemudaratan padanya..
Mudarat dlm pelbagai bentuk, boleh jadi kehilangan, kecurian, kemalangan, kesakitan dan sebagainya..
Nauzubillahi min zaa'lik..

Aku renung2 sejenak, susah jugak nak make sure setiap orang akan buat perkara yg sama..
Elok juga rasanya kite mulakan dgn diri kita terhadap segala nikmat2 yg Allah dah bagi pada kita..
Moga2 terlepas dari setiap sesuatu yg buruk.. Amin...

Masya-Allah..
Ni Miyah punye helmet..Nak naik vroom..vroom (motosikal) :-)



P/S: Teringat cerita Ali Baba Bujang Lapuk..Masa Aziz Satar masuk gua ambik harta karun & pakai topi perang...
"Utk mempertahankan diri..."..hehehe....

Till then, wassalam....

Thursday, February 18, 2010

Nak ukur tahap iman kite??

Bagaimanakah perasaan kite tatkala berada di dalam majlis ilmu, atau ketika di dalam masjid..
mahupun majlis2 bermanfaat yg seumpamanya???

seperti burung di langit inikah??



atau ikan2 di air ini?



namun andai hati gelisah bak burung di sangkar



maka haruslah kite merenung..
mungkin hati ini sudah gelap & hitam dek hambatan dosa & nafsu..
sesuatu perlu dilakukan...kerana hidup ini sgt singkat,jika kite sedar hakikat sebenarnya..

aduh hati...bangunlah...basuhlah dgn air mata insaf & taubat...
harap2 masih belum terlambat....

Wednesday, February 17, 2010

Which Are We?

Kata2 seorang ustaz tatkala menonton rancangan Tanyalah Ustaz menyebabkan aku tersentak seketika...

Ungkap beliau,

"Anak2 boleh jadi penyebab umur ibu bapanya menjadi lebih panjang atau makin pendek"

Well said, no elaboration needed.

Sering aku tertanya2 bie aku sendirian..
Will I be the former or the latter???

Friday, February 5, 2010

Survivor

Mendengarkan pengalaman '1st hand' dari seorang mangsa tsunami 2004 amat menginsafkan..

Waktu kejadian 5 tahun lepas, aku di Labuan atas audit assignment ke sebuah kilang tepung, Interflour.
Melihatkan coverage di TV sudah cukup menggerunkan, bayangkan mereka2 yg dihempas ombak setinggi 10 meter..
Atas inayah Allah jua mereka2 ini masih hidup..
Berkongsi cerita agar dapat dijadikan iktibar buat yg masih hidup...
Buat generasi2 seterusnya agar jangan asyik keseronokan dunia hingga terabai Islam & Iman..



Terbayangkah kita andai tiba2 langit itu runtuh lalu menghempap segala penduduk bumi??
Segalanya mungkin, kerana Allah punye kuasa atas tiap2 sesuatu..

Begitu juga dgn nikmat yg kita ada.
Saban hari, kita asyik memikirkan apa org lain ada & kita tiada..

Hanya apabila nikmat yg kita ada telah hilang dari pandangan kita...
maka tika itulah baru kita sedar nikmat yg Allah bagi itu amat besar nilainya...hatta sesuap nasi...

Andai kamu merenung bintang di langit, usahlah lupa rumput & pasir yg di bumi....

Friday, January 29, 2010

Kerana Pulut...

Scattered Paper

Once upon a time an old man spread rumors that his neighbor was a thief. As a result, the young man was arrested. Days later the young man was proven innocent.  After been released he sued the old man for wrongly accusing him.
 
In court the old man told the Judge: 'They were just comments, didn't harm anyone..'
 
The judge, before passing sentence on the case, told the old man: 'Write all the things you said about him on a piece of paper. Cut them up and on the way home, throw the pieces of paper out. Tomorrow, come back to hear the sentence.'
 
The next day, the judge told the old man: 'Before receiving the sentence, you will have to go out and gather all the pieces of paper that you threw out yesterday.'
 
The old man said: 'I can't do that! The wind spread them and I won't know where to find them.'
 
The judge then replied: 'The same way, simple comments may destroy the honor of a man to such an extent that one is not able to fix it. If you can't speak well of someone, rather don't say anything.
 
'Let's all be masters of our mouths, so that we won't be slaves of our words.'

Saturday, January 23, 2010

Al-Fatihah

Kami sampai umah parent aku @ Tmn Sri Saujana dlm pukul 9.30 malam tadi.
Waktu makan,ayah ade mention die dpt sms berkenaan Sultan Iskandar yg sedang gering.
Since mlm td tak bukak TV,pagi2 baru le tau baginda telahpun mangkat jam 7.15pm semalam...

Al-Fatihah buat almarhum, semoga ditempatkan di kalangan orang2 yg beriman..




Semalam aku amik cuti, pagi pegi HUKM utk periodical check-up.
Alhamdulillah...semua blood reading normal. Hope it always be..

Then,pegi anto servis keta kat seksyen 14, PJ.


Mengimbau kenangan2 lalu masa kat matriks UIA.
Berjalan kaki pegi sahur...Gi ronda2 kat supermarket Jaya (malangnya baru lepas runtuh)
Ikut budak2 main kuda (masa tu cukup popular), walaupun cume jdk pemerhati..itu bukanlah sesuatu yg aku banggakan...
semoga Allah ampunkan dosa kelalaian2 yg lepas...

Kemuadian bersolat Jumaat kt Masjid Tun Abd Aziz..
Di kalangan budak2 UIA, lebih dikenali sebagai masjid bulat...
Intipati khutbah adalah tentang mati.
Yes, topik yg bukan favourite.
Kalo dengo kuliah kat radio atau TV, kalo bole sure kite akan tukar channel...

Sedangkan Rasulullah dah pesan, org yg paling bijak adalah yg selalu mengingati mati.
Utk ingat mati, kite kene selalu bercakap tentangnya..
Tapi bile kite selalu sebut tentang mati, orang akan cakap kite ni jumud, mundur..
Entahlah...

Yang penting, kalo kite tau hakikat mati...serta hakikat wujudnya syurga & neraka,
nescaya kite akan sentiasa berhati2..
Setiap langkah, setiap tindak tanduk kita...

Mudah-mudahan kita akan ingat itu.....

Saturday, January 9, 2010

Mayonnaise Jar & Coffee

to those who haven't heard the story..something to ponder



A professor stood before his philosophy class..
and had some items in front of him.
When the class began, wordlessly,
he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar
and proceeded to fill it with golf balls.

He then asked the students, if the jar was full.
They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured
them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly.
The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls.

He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar.
Of course, the sand filled up everything else.
He asked once more if the jar was full.
The students responded with a unanimous 'yes.'

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar,
effectively filling the empty space between the sand.
The students laughed.

'Now,' said the professor, as the laughter subsided,
'I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life.
The golf balls are the important things - family, children, health, friends, and favourite passions..
Things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, house and car.

The sand is everything else....The small stuff.

'If you put the sand into the jar first,' He continued,
'there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls.
The same goes for life.

If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff,
You will never have room for the things that are important to you.

So...

Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.
Play with your children.
Take time to get medical check-ups.
Take your partner out to dinner.

There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal.

'Take care of the golf balls first, the things that really matter.
Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.'

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented.

The professor smiled..
'I'm glad you asked'.

It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem,
there's always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend.'

When things in your life seem, almost too much to handle...
When 24 hours in a day is not enough...
Remember the mayonnaise jar and 2 cups of coffee.


Friday, January 8, 2010

D-Day

Rutin2 seharian memang memenatkan...
Namun, andai matlamat kite hidup ini jelas sejelas2nya..
hari demi hari sebenarnya akan mendekatkan kite..
mengenalkan kite kepada Pencipta kita, Tuhan sekalian alam..

Berkenaan konflik nama 'Allah'...
masing2 ada pendapat tersendiri, ade agenda tersendiri, ade misi tersendiri..
Terpulanglah..
yakinilah Allah akan melindungi agamaNYA yg sempurna & suci ini, insya-Allah...

Apa kata kite lihat dari suatu sudut yg lain...
Mungkinkah orang Islam itu kualitinya sudah terlalu 'bobrok',
sehinggakan Allah hina kita sekarang ini..apabila orang bukan Islam pula yg beria2 ingin mengaku Allah itu tuhan mereka?? renung2kanlah...

And today, new organization chart for my Co. will be out at 4pm.
While I might be happy, frankly I will be happier if I am not getting the promotion...
not for now..

Bismillahi tawakkaltu alallah....

Friday, January 1, 2010

Holla 2010


Sumber dirujuk dari Angkasa.

Daripada al Mughirah b. Syu'bah RadhiAllahu 'anhu beliau berkata:
"Telah gerhana matahari pada zaman Rasulullah S.A.W, pada hari kematian Ibrahim (anak Rasulullah S.A.W),
maka telah berkata manusia: Matahari menjadi gerhana kerana kematian Ibrahim.
Maka Rasulullah S.A.W bersabda:
"Sesungguhnya matahari dan bulan adalah dua bukti di antara bukti-bukti kekuasaan Allah, keduanya tidak menjadi gerhana disebabkan hidup atau matinya seseorang, apabila kamu melihatnya (gerhana matahari dan bulan), maka berdoalah pada Allah dan bersolatlah, sehingga habis gerhana." - Muttafaq 'alaihi.

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Tahun 2009 melabuhkan tirai.
Sesuatu yg istimewa utk tahun 2010 apabila sambutan countdown berkebetulan hampir serentak dgn kejadian gerhana bulan..
Sama ada kite melebihkan sambutan tahun baru, atau menuruti sunnah Rasulullah s.a.w.?

Kat desa aku ni, alhamdulillah org2 surau ade inisiatif anjurkan solat sunat gerhana bulan..
Tak silap Masjid Negara pun ade buat, tapi silap beso le kalo nak ke KL time2 camni..

Apapun, semoga tahun baru ini semakin mendekatkan kita pada Pencipta kita..
Mudah-mudahan semakin kite sedar hakikat kehidupan yg amat singkat & sementara ini..

Wallahua'lam...